Over the years, I made a lot of friends. School friends, undergraduate degree friends, masters degree friends, gym friends, travel friends and work friends.
There are friends who like going out for a cup of coffee, some who come back home only once a year and then those who I talk to a few times in a year.
But are all these different people my close friends? Not really.
I just have three close friends who are also my most ‘real’ friends. The circle is small because the focus has always been quality over quantity.
We all can have a hundred friends if we please but what’s the point when none of them will even blink an eyelid to help you when you are in trouble? Or when you are sad, fake friends will never go out of their way to see you smile. These friends will never be honest with you.
In comparison, fostering an honest and deep friendship with one person can be more rewarding.
With this one person, you can be yourself without the fear of being judged. You can speak your mind without thinking yourself to be stupid. This one friend will always have your back. They will protect you from heartbreak.
Isn’t having this one friend better than having hundreds who don’t care about you?
The question then arises, do we need close friendships in the first place?
Fathom this. When you had a bad day at work, you would be motivated to go out for drinks with a friend you can be your most honest self with instead of watching Netflix just by yourself while eating sad takeaway food.
And beyond preference, there is an abundance of research that clearly establishes how close friendships are integral for optimal health and well-being.
Let’s also not forget we are social creatures so naturally, we will seek connections with other people.
And the best part about having a small circle of close and real friends?
Less drama. Less bullshit. More honesty, love, respect, and support. And that’s exactly how friendships should be.